The Meaning of Love
by Vladimir Solovyov, introduction by Owen Barfield
Lindisfarne Books
If you want to read one of the most logical, persuasive, and unusual treatises on this eternally fascinating topic, pick up this book! Following a brilliant introduction by Owen Barfield, Solovyov proceeds to dissolve most of our preconceptions about the meaning of love. He then proceeds to build up a case for what he believes is the real purpose of falling in love.
Why do we fall in love? Solovyov points out that it is not for the purpose of procreation, since less-evolved species are much more concerned with procreation than are humans. The more intelligent, the less procreation seems to be important. Romantic relationships, he posits, are actually not conducive to having lots of children. Just look at Romeo and Juliet.
We can regard falling in love either as a fact of nature or as a divine gift, but in either case it’s a natural process that arises independently of us, and if left to itself, it vanishes. Solovyev proposes that it is up to us to direct this natural process to higher ends. It’s like the gift of speech: we’d still be muttering and grunting if we had not developed our faculty for language, and used that faculty to write beautifully and to speak artistically. The importance of language is not in speaking or even in communicating, but in what is being said and how: the revealing of experience through words. The development of language mirrors the development of human consciousness.
Following this thought, Solovyov proposes that the true significance of love is not in the experience of romantic emotion, but in what is accomplished by means of that feeling, in the act of love.
We all agree that romantic love exists as a fact of life, but Solovyov believes also that the feeling of romantic love imposes an important duty upon us. That duty is to love and to be loved in as beautiful, loyal, and artistic a way as possible. It is as essential to future human development as the use and development of language was in the past. Our duty with regards to romantic love is the physical possession of the beloved and living together in union. The task of love is in justifying in deed the feeling we experience of being ‘in love.’
Solovyev proposes that Love is the next stage of human evolution, and romantic love is the actualization of that evolution.
And so, as Owen Barfield points out in his – as always – succinct and inspiring introduction, every adolescent who thinks that it’s okay for romantic and sexual relationships to be casual or purposeless, should read this book. Without moralizing or preaching, it places the importance of romantic relationships in a completely new light.
And all of us who love to read and write romantic fiction will receive courage and validation from this wise book. Its philosophy is ours.
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