Don’t expect someone else to be able to read your mind. No one is a mind-reader. But we are all heart-readers. By that I mean that we can all read the heart of a child, a partner, or a beloved dog. We know when they’re happy, for example, or when they’re upset, without being told. We know a hug can comfort. We know how a smile can penetrate. The hardest part of being an animal communicator is trying to interpret dog-language or bird-language into our familiar left-brain words, because animals communicate through their feelings, not their thinking. So do we. Our mind can be useful because it helps us to interpret our feelings. It helps us to understand ourselves and the world we live in. When we confuse the two—our mind and our heart—we can get tangled up. What do we really want? A puppy or a kitten? A new dress or to donate the money to an organization that’s important to us? Often, we think what we really want is for someone else to change—for a parent to stop behaving a certain way or for a child to be happy, for instance. But we have no power over that. That kind of ‘ask’ leads only to frustration and potential misery. What we do have extraordinary power over is ourselves. Speak your truth to yourself. Say it out loud. Just make sure it’s your truth and no one else’s. It’s not about asking for something to be different to what it is, it’s about asking to feel differently about it. You can’t ask for your chair to turn into a couch. Don’t ask your spouse to be better or different than they are. But ask for anything that has to do with you, and you can have it. If a big black dog shows up on your doorstep and needs a home, stop wishing it was a kitten. If a friend annoys you, turn it around: they’re not annoying you—you are annoyed by them. And you can ask yourself not to be annoyed. Yes, you actually can set that annoyance free and not feel annoyed! Ask for what you want—and it’s yours. It’s miraculous.
